10 Types Of Men Women Should Avoid
- Gia
- Feb 28, 2017
- 8 min read
Some relationships are destined to fail the moment they begin and that's the sad truth. No matter how much patience you have and how much effort you put into them they simply will not last. Often times we as women use poor judgement and seek relationships with people who simply are not ready for a commitment because we like what we see in terms of physical appearances or we are in-love with their personalities despite of blatant facts that these people are not ready for a relationship beyond the sac. Many times too we pursue relationships with people who clearly don't want them because we feel that being an awesomely, sweet addition to the pack will change them. This may work out in a very few instances but the most dysfunctional relationships are entered into on this basis. If a man tells you he can change tell him that to get the right person he needs to be the right person, do not sell yourself short by agreeing to joint the cast in his reality show with hopes of winning his heart at the end of the season. A good gamble is worth it when you are sure of the win and men has proven time and time again to be the most unpredictable of all the species to grace the earth.
Here is a list of 10 types of men you should never date if you want a healthy, happy, monogamous relationship.
1. The Mama's Boy
While it's admirable for men to have a deep, genuine love for their Mother. It's a whole other thing for a man to depend on his mother for every single need. The worst competition to enter is the the competition with the mother. If you start dating this man with intents to be committed you will find that you will have no privacy in your relationship. He will report every disagreement to his mother who often times will side with him and eventually resentment will ensue. She might in-turn relate your relationship issues to other members of his family and by the time you meet them they will have formed their own opinions of you which might stunt the growth of those relationships. Don't be one of those females who think that what a man's family thinks of you holds no merit in your relationship. Research has shown that spouses who have a good relationship with the family of their significant others enjoy more lasting relationships. So if a man does not understand the basic rules that will ensure his family has respect for you don't bother. One more thing is you might end up spending days alone as he will retreat to his mother for days when ever there is little disturbance in your relationship which will make it hard to work through you issues.
2. Men Who Does Not See The Need To Have A Source Of Income
I have found that in this generation an astounding number of men see no need to generate a income. Avoid these men at all cost because if your relationship do work you will find that an excessive amount of financial burden may end up being assigned to you. If he isn't working and has no intent to get a job you are a luxury he can't afford. If you are pursuing a long term relationship cohabitation or marriage is the end goal and you will not be able to grow financially in a union with a bum. That's a strong word but it's true. Living with a man who lacks ambition can affect your growth process. Your relationship should inspire and motivate you and you should both be able to contribute to each others growth and development.
3. Men Who Shows Distinct Signs Of Obsession In The Talking Stages
A man who is very concerned is very attractive but trust me and a speak from personal experience a man who needs to know your exact where a-bouts every hour of the day and wants to set up a report in system within days of getting your number is someone you should never consider a relationship with. A matter of fact be extra smart and don't even give him a first day. Men have control issues caused by many factors, trust issues due to their personal cheater ways, trust issues because they have been cheated on or insecurity issues, whatever their case is, don't try to justify a man being extra clingy. If you venture down this road you are guaranteed to be unhappy and may end up being a victim of physical and emotional abuse. No woman wants to be with someone who has major problems with her spending time with her friends or even simple conversation with other males. Later in you relationship you will find yourself having to explain yourself at every turn and peace which you almost will never have is an essential part of every lasting relationship.
4. Men Who Claim To Be Single But You Are Unable To Reach Their Phones After 9 pm Or Whenever They Are Home
So he doesn't work a gruesome day shift and you can never talk to him on the phone at nights or whenever he is home and on a good day he talks to you via text message. This is a man who is in a relationship he is protecting as any man in a relationship should. But men in a relationship shouldn't be pursuing another relationship so delete his number and don't even agree to coffee. Don't play the fool and say oh well he didn't say he is in a relationship, the signs he is giving is as vivid as the Dr Pepper billboard that adds decor to every town. Don't believe the no reception in the house con. Tell him enjoy his life and keep it moving.
5. Men Who Degrade Women And Make Derogatory Comments About Them Effortlessly
When feelings fade and people part ways it often gets messy, especially when one person refuses to accept that the relationship has come to an end. No matter the circumstances it is never okay for a man to slander a woman and speak of her short comings while giving out personal intimate details of their relationship. Never date a man who blabs to you or goes on social media to repeatedly defame their ex or exes these are tell tale signs that you might be the victim of that very same treatment if you pursue a relationship with him and it goes left. The same words that escape his lip to describe his ex might be the very same words he uses in the future to describe you.
6. Men Who Do Not Take Care Of Their Children
We have many exceptional Father's in the world today and I must commend them, but a vast majority of men keep up with the latest fashion trends and refuse to financially support their children. Regardless of the circumstances that a child was conceived under, a man should provide for his child, regardless of the relationship between parents a man should never use it as an excuse to not step up to the plate and be a father. A man with this behavior lacks moral and integrity. Don't even think about being with a man who says he does not pay his dues because he told her to get an abortion, he did not want a child or she is too hard to deal with. You might end up being on the receiving end of this behavior if later you have a child by such a man.
7. Men Who Moves Away To Answer His Phone When He Is With You Or Doesn't Answer It
So everything checks out and you end up dating him but three dates in you realize his phone will ring unend when he is with you and he just won't answer or every time it rings he excuses himself to take the call. This is sure signs of a man who has something to hide and secrets are never good when trying to start a relationship with trust for someone. He might be in a relationship or have shady business dealings. Either ways save yourself the trouble and leave it where its at. Some relationship experts suggest you ask questions to gain clarity, I am no relationship expert but I say don't ask questions tell him it's best you quit while you are both ahead and take your leave. You don't want a man lying to you and stringing you along which is exactly what will happen if he is a pro-gamer. A man who is serious in his pursuit of a relationship with you and who is transparent will not need to be sneaky.
8. Men Who Stay In Constant Communication With Their Exes Even When They Have No Need To
Don't fall for the I'm a nice guy speech. Men who constantly communicate with their exes who they have no ties to, meaning children are often time still sleeping with them. If you start talking to someone who still has an attachment to one or more of their exes save yourself the trouble of developing an attachment to them. If you happen to start dating one of these types without knowing end it when you do. These types may eventually cause you to start feeling insecure about yourself if you continue on this road only to find out he won't cut all communication with the ex. Putting you peace of mind at risk for a man is never an option.
9. Men Who Tell You They Are Only Looking For Fun And Has No Intention To Commit
It has become a growing trend among modern day women to agree to their husbands or boyfriends stepping outside of their relationship and having sexual encounters with other people. If you are seeking a long term committed relationship turn down these offers. These are the type of men that hopeless romantics tend to fall for without even knowing so don't even give it thought. Erase all ideas that you can start a fling with him and take him from home or his partner and even if you could he is already indiscipline and may soon require the same agreement with you.
10. Married Men
A married man is 100 percent unavailable regardless of what he is saying to you. If he isn't legally separated from his wife no matter how many tales of despair he is flowing to your ears you will be nothing but a glorified side piece. If his marriage is only giving his suicidal unhappiness he needs to leave before he is ready for a new relationship. Never build your relationship and hopes on the idea that he is leaving his wife next month, next year or after the children reach middle school or college. You are being sold a dream and this man will eventually lose whatever respect he has for you. He might even leave his wife and marry someone else who he sees has higher standards. If you meet a married man do not date him and if you find out later that he is married cut all ties with him. Again it shows a a lack of morals if a man discusses his wife with you, with the intent to get in your underwear. And what goes around, comes around.
Some people are very good at hiding aspects of their personality and parts of their lives they don't want revealed. Learn to follow your intuitions they are often right. And remember a man does not change because a woman loves him, he changes because he loves her so choose your battles wisely. You should never have to sacrifice yourself and the things that are logically important to your growth and happiness to make a man happy.
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